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Question: What is Love? Is starting a family realizing the love is there? Or is it when they get married finding love is there? To accept the love one’s must be trustworthy. Do Men/ Women cheat to define the love? What is love ?
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Hello Marissa
As you must have realized -you must first know what love is in order to be able to recognize it, and find it. If you ask anyone what is love? it is very likely that you will get a bunch of different responses. Love is a powerful emotion, it is unconditional and selfless. A person must first learn to love themselves before they can truly love anyone else, you must love yourself before trying to find someone to love you. Just think about it for a minute- when you love yourself, you want what’s best for yourself ,and love yourself unconditionally .when a mother gives birth ,she immediately experiences unconditional love( in most cases) towards that child. No one else comes before the child, she will do whatever is necessary to keep the child safe.
If you know that you are worthy of being loved, you will have no problem accepting love, because you believe you truly do deserve to be loved. When one decides to get married you should already know that you love that person and that the love is mutual, before you decide to embark on a lifetime together.
People have different reasons for Cheating. I think mostly it is because they are not satisfied in the relationship that they currently have. I personally feel that if my significant other cheats, he knows that it’s going to hurt me, and cannot truly love me. Therefore he would no longer be a part of my life, a matter of fact that is one of the contingencies that I set up in my relationship, because to me cheating is the ultimate betrayal in my relationship. Again I say, you will have to set boundaries within your relationship. You will know if it is right for you, you will know when you find love. You just need to know that you deserve it and cherish it and treat it like a precious commodity it is …… and pick wisely
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Oh my god! Well understood!! Thank you so much for this outstanding great advice! Love is a blessing.. As you go about cherishing the moments we live .. We must be in a healthy relationship. Marriage is another commitment which many individuals believes it in a different way. Marriage is like a security. Once your in many branches are coming out the way. How to prevent that?
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Hello Jacknsc!
Lol im back its me Marissa!
Few months ago we discuss on topic of “What is Love?” & and the way you defined it ..it is a “powerful emotion that is unconditional” and you must love yourself before you truly love anyone else. Okay yes your absolutely right and I totally agree! But to bring in another question from a different view that I had in mind I would like to define the meaning of Love in a Man’s perspective!! Let’s see! How would a Man visualize the meaning of Love? Are Man loyal to their woman/ wife/ fiancé ? I say this because sometime I wonder why man love to hurt their significant other here and there and thinks it’s okay to sit there and talk to them and brush it off like everything will be okay and back to normal!? Here’s my scenario… Okay I’ve been married for about 11 years now and have 2 kids with my husband. It’s been a hella roller coaster but we’ve been holding it strong. My husband is never home to sit and relax but always busy working or keeping himself occupied with his friends and family hanging out while I’m always home Relaxing my life away. Unfortunately I’ve been through several situations where I had realize he’s been Cheating after cheating …. Had sleepless nights, feeling so emotional, came to a point where I couldn’t deal anymore. My problem to this issue is Why are Men So Crucial To Their Wives at Home? Now let’s backtrack .. My question to this issue is should I (wife) confront and go looking for that women he’s been cheating on with to put a stop or let it go and move. This is why I really want to research and see different points of view on the meaning of “Love” in a Mans Persepctive. What do you think!?
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Marissa your question is very interesting
Do you remember when I told you that you must first love yourself, it really does come back down to that.
You see you loving yourself wouldn’t allow someone to hurt you and treat you in this manner.
Seems that you didn’t set boundaries from the beginning and this situation has been an ongoing issue.
When did you first realize that this was the person you married?
what did you do about the infidelities?
Each person loves and defines love differently
Yes a man might love you, but because you are married and have children he may be comfortable and think he is safe…..because no matter he feels that you will never leave him.
A person can be loyal if they choose to and only if they want to.
And everyone involved in a relationship is absolutely crucial to that relationship, but I myself would rather be alone, than to be worried about what my significant other is doing every minute of every hour or every second of that day. if he loves me he will know that my peace of mind is important
but I love myself so therefore, I know that my peace of mind is important,!and if my significant other is placing that at risk then I would not hesitate to let him go and be free and have my peace of mind
How many women do you plan to confront?
The supply is endless so he can always find someone else to cheat with.
Do you think confronting the women will stop him from cheating
The point I am trying to make is that you’re not married to these women you are married to your husband
Don’t degrade yourself by arguing with these women, and know your worth.
How long before he brings something incurable home
What happens to your children then.
but this decision Marissa is solely yours
you know if you have peace of mind,
if you can get peace of mind with your significant other, and if he loves you .
if you love him or better yet, if you love yourself then guarantee your own peace of mind
And I will say to you love is individual , one’s interpretation of love is individual
how one exhibits love is individual
the problem that you are currently experiencing and the answers lie within you, your significant other and in and the unique relationship you guys have crafted.
that is where you will find the answers that you seek.
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Wow! As reading the previous blog user Marissa she came up with a great perspective for all us woman’s out there to think off. Now it takes me to another step and makes me wonder even more about my journey. Okay so let me give out a brief description of myself so one can understand where I’m coming from… Okay so, I’m Honduran and I’m currently in school still studying to receiving my Masters in Nursing. So I’m currently engaged with my soulmate who is from the Carribbean Island whom I’ve been with for about 4 years now. It’s been a roller coaster but we’re continuing to work things out because we sense the feeling is highly mutual. My problem is that my soulmate is still dealing with his past since he have children’s to take care of so basically baby mama drama issue at all times. Since the fact I’m always at school studying or working full time our relationship is very steady now a days He’s always hanging out with his friends or usually taking care of him kids. The fact we live together we still don’t have time to relax.
NOW my question is will a man srealize they lost a treasure when it’s gone??? Most women now a days never give their man a second chance but when loving a soulmate its very hard to loose. .. even when times are rough and the issues I have to go through. What’s the best option!?
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Wow! As reading the previous blog user Marissa she came up with a great perspective for all us woman’s out there to think off. Now it takes me to another step and makes me wonder even more about my journey. Okay so let me give out a brief description of myself so one can understand where I’m coming from… Okay so, I’m Honduran and I’m currently in school still studying to receiving my Masters in Nursing. So I’m currently engaged with my soulmate who is from the Carribbean Island whom I’ve been with for about 4 years now. It’s been a roller coaster but we’re continuing to work things out because we sense the feeling is highly mutual. My problem is that my soulmate is still dealing with his past since he have children’s to take care of so basically baby mama drama issue at all times. Since the fact I’m always at school studying or working full time our relationship is very steady now a days He’s always hanging out with his friends or usually taking care of him kids. The fact we live together we still don’t have time to relax.
NOW my question is will a man srealize they lost a treasure when it’s gone??? Most women now a days never give their man a second chance but when loving a soulmate its very hard to loose. .. even when times are rough and the issues I have to go through. What’s the best option!? Should I continue to stress about it or drop it?
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It is very important for you to set standards at the beginning of your relationship. If your relationship is plagued with drama from the beginning , the odds are they will continue throughout. Many of us ladies like to make allowances because we are so In love, and can’t see life moving forward without our partner. Sad to say I was once in that predicament , not only was he my fiancé but we had a child together, I mean I was in love that boy made my heart skip a beat every time I even thought about him. but I knew the drama , and other behaviors that I did not condone would never stop. and I could not continue. So I ended the relationship. But eight years later, he decided he could not live without me and you know what , he was my soul mate, so I gave it a shot. We’ve now been married for nine years and going strong. It’s not perfect , but the things that I will not tolerate, he is aware of and understands . I am happy to say those things are no longer an issue in our relationship, And the love is strong.
The answers to your questions:
Yes a man will realize when he has lost a treasure
If your relationship continues on its current path, where do you see it in the next few years?
And only you can say what you should do
But are you happy in your relationship?
If you are then great, but if you are not what will it take to make you happy?
And can your partner give that to you?
These are questions you need to honestly answer, because you deserve to be happy.
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Thank you very much! Such a great a example. I deserve to live life and be happy! Great thoughts to think about!
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Hey Hun,
Back again with the relationship advice lol ( you know sometimes I gotta seek my issues in different views/ perspectives. Here me out on this relationship advice again lol ..
So previously I had talked about the ongoing problems that me and my soulmate was facing which made feel so lost ,confused and hurt to a point I got fed up and had a phase moment to myself. Once again, We’ve been together and engaged for 7 years which includes outside drama (baby mama drama and kids). Though i love him sooo much and he knows that, he continues to deal with issues in the past that I can’t tolerate! So I continue to face it and wonder when will it ever change? Hes always the type to spend more time with his friends instead of being home to relax after work 😦 So I finally finished school and graduated my from Nursing. We have no time together b/c I work very heavily or always studying have no social life. Now that I’m free I’m ready to settle down. Yes still young and have no kids (was always focused into the books lol) but ready! so now my fiancé recently realized what I’m going through and thinks that its time for marriage.
Okay I’m very excited about it, but question is will this marriage be meaningful? When I think of marriage I think of a placement of security. Hey I’m ready! Here goes the advice question, we soon will get married but our plan is not coming correct. Like I want a wedding day ceremony with family and friends but he wants a court ceremony. Personally I wasn’t raised that way. My parents always wanted to see the enriched lightentment in me. I must show my parents the accomplishing goals such as a wedding and a family. Yes I understands his point of views with wedding crashers but he gotta understand to knocks those out cause all those drama will eventually die out. Question: what the difference btw wedding day/ court day? Once your married your married .. right ? Marriage is a strong sacrament to lock in and I’m soo not looking forward to continuing dealing with unacceptable baby mothers coming after me nor his problems with them but his kids I will definetly accept no matter what!
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Hey Hun,
Back again with the relationship advice lol ( you know sometimes I gotta seek my issues in different views/ perspectives. Here me out on this relationship advice again lol ..
So previously I had talked about the ongoing problems that me and my soulmate was facing which made feel so lost ,confused and hurt to a point I got fed up and had a phase moment to myself. Once again, We’ve been together and engaged for 7 years which includes outside drama (baby mama drama and kids). Though i love him sooo much and he knows that, he continues to deal with issues in the past that I can’t tolerate! So I continue to face it and wonder when will it ever change? Hes always the type to spend more time with his friends instead of being home to relax after work 😦 So I finally finished school and graduated my from Nursing. We have no time together b/c I work very heavily or always studying have no social life. Now that I’m free I’m ready to settle down. Yes still young and have no kids (was always focused into the books lol) but ready! so now my fiancé recently realized what I’m going through and thinks that its time for marriage.
Okay I’m very excited about it, but question is will this marriage be meaningful? When I think of marriage I think of a placement of security. Hey I’m ready! Here goes the advice question, we soon will get married but our plan is not coming correct. Like I want a wedding day ceremony with family and friends but he wants a court ceremony. Personally I wasn’t raised that way. My parents always wanted to see the enriched lightentment in me. I must show my parents the accomplishing goals such as a wedding and a family. Yes I understand his point of views with wedding crashers but he gotta understand to knocks those out cause all those drama will eventually die out and cheating will eventually non exist. Question: whats the difference btw wedding day/ court day? Once your married your married .. right ? Marriage is a strong sacrament to lock in and I’m soo not looking forward to continuing dealing with unacceptable baby mothers coming after me nor his problems with them but his kids I will definetly accept no matter what!
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Hi Claudine
If you are depending on getting married to fix the baby mamma drama , I fear you will be greatly disappointed . You see once there are children involved the parents are tied together in some capacity forever.
If your fiancé has set boundaries that should be in place for other females, once he is in a committed relationship’ then the drama should be at a minimum.
Yes once you’re married you’re married
You however may end up resenting your husband , whether now or in the future, for depriving you of the wedding you dreamed of. Of course you can do the official wedding in a courthouse and have a ceremony after and celebrate with your family and friends then.
I will however suggest that you get some premarital counseling with a pastor / minister/priest ;who will be performing your ceremony. To bring you two closer together in preparation for the journey together.
Marriage is a bond and a commitment , please ensure that this is definitely what you want, think about it ; are you going to be happy in this relationship in 5 years , dealing with the issues you currently have
I got news for you: baby mothers get angry when their baby daddy’s get married. Which means if he was giving them hope,they’re gonna be doubly mad, which usually turns into child support cases etc.
If this is the man you need in your life, who loves you the way you love him. Who you know would do anything to make and keep you happy , work it out. The two of you get together and compromise .
As a fellow nurse of so many years, I will tell you: it is imperative that you are happy so you can concentrate and give your patients the best care….
Your my dear young lady have some thinking to do, only you can make this decision . Be honest with yourself
Please make the decision that’s right for you and you’ll have no regrets
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Yes most definitely! Your right I should reconsider seeking counseling I guess but didn’t wanna make outsiders (pastors/priest) know my struggling due the fact that I know my pastor for many years. I’ll try again and see what can be best for. No rush just being patience is the key! Thank you very much ; advice helps very much 🙂
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